Letters for My Father

Release Date: August 7, 2025

Letters for My Father explores grieving and making sense of a relationship between a father and son while also being so much more. Written by the influential existential psychologist Louis Hoffman, who has worked extensively with grieving throughout his career as a psychotherapist, this is also a book of love, self-exploration, relational depth, and the world and realities that shaped his relationship with his father. As Hoffman journeys into grieving, he journeys into himself. The chapters include touching letters honoring his father, working through unresolved issues, seeking acceptance, exploring the racial realities of a biracial family, and finding places of connection. Throughout, a holistic process of grieving is modeled. As Letters for My Father illustrates, the grieving process is not just about trying to “get over” a loss. Many losses, such as the loss of a parent, are something we never get over but rather integrate and learn to live with in new and sometimes vibrant ways. Hoffman demonstrates that one can find a way to live with grief in a way that includes beauty, joy, and preserved connection alongside the pain.

Any grieving includes a journey into oneself, which Hoffman does with stunning transparency and honesty. In these letters, he finds places of connection and similarity as well as places of disconnect and differences. Both are part of his healing process and deepening his connection with his father. As he shares, through writing these letters he has found a way to preserve meaning and relationship and to even grow closer with his father. Hoffman also investigates how the process of grieving and writing these letters have helped strengthen and center his connection with himself while returning to his lifelong commitment to living with relational depth.

Letters are also written to family members, colleagues, mentees, and others, illuminating the impact his father had upon people surrounding him while engaging in a communal grieving process. While reading, keep some tissue handy as Letters for My Father is sure to bring tears and prompt self-reflection from the reader.