Reviews
These pages are filled with the pain and delight of being a parent, a child, a member of humankind. Their words are like liquid love and tenderness, held together by the bittersweetness of fear and loss. So evocative are these gems, that each twinkles with sparks, that reveal the depth of life. They are reminders of what matters most and they will enchant you and touch your heart.
Emmy van Deurzen, PhD
Professor, New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling at the Existential Academy in London
Author, Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling in Practice (3rd ed.) and Everyday Mysteries (2nd ed.)
The outstanding Introduction sets the stage for an existential and humanistic immersion into the depths of one of our most impactful and treasured relationships. This extraordinary, heart-centered collection of poignant reflections on the vicissitudes of parenting, being parented, and inclusive family relationships provide intimate glimpses into a nuanced appreciation of the depths of vulnerability, doubt and uncertainty, loss and mourning, the gifts of tenderness and revealing oneself, the delicacy and resilience within life’s challenges and growth opportunities; and the power of hope to heal betrayals and breaches with beloved others. A transformative journey into the heart of the relationship.
Shawn Rubin, PsyD
Past-President, Society for Humanistic Psychology
Co-Editor, Humanistic Psychotherapies: Handbook of Research and Practice
This is a profound and beautiful collection of poetry about parenting across the lifespan…. Engaging to the reader, this collection of poetry offers deep insights into personal growth and awakens memories within us of our own childhood and of our parents.
Barbara Williams, MSW, ACSW
Heather Williams, BSW
Kids’ Workshop™ Staff of the Person-Centered
Institute of Italy
www.kids-workshop.com
Authors of Wisdom of Children
Acknowledgments
Foreword by Barbara Williams & Heather Williams
Introduction
Poems
The Light Inside – Alan King
Icarus’s Mother Talks to Her Son – Lois Marie Harrod
Mother by Any Means – Ellaraine Lockie
Not My Mother’s Daughter – Lisa Xochitl Vallejos
Every Version – Louis Hoffman
By What Right? – Tom Greening
Fear of Heights – Carol Barrett
The Day She Stopped Telling Me Everything – Maura Snell
I Hold a Small Death… – Christina Lovin
Bitties Turning 4 – Marion Deutsche Cohen
Right Field Siberia – Charlotte Mandel
The Genes of Guilt – Patricia Wellingham-Jones
Why I Chose My Parents – Shoshauna Shy
Ice Storm – W. F. Lantry
Night Fear – Charles Rossiter
Definition – Marilyn Zelke Windau
The Hundred Names of Love – Annie Lighthart
I Go Back in Time and Rescue My Mother – Leah Browning
She’s Moved to the Other Side of the World – Phyllis Wax
A Family Affair – Carol Barrett
Going to Meet Our Birth Daughter After Nineteen Years – Maura Snell
I Want to Be Ready – Louis Hoffman
I Never Called Him Foster – Nathaniel Granger, Jr.
The Catch – W. F. Lantry
At Jack London State Historic Park – Shahé Mankerian
The Matter of Smiles – Marion Deutsche Cohen
My Window – Evgeny Krayushkin-ZheKa
Learning from the Landscape – Carol Dorf
Two Balloons – Michael Moats
Empty Nest– Michele Riedel
A Mother is Gathering Pens… – Marilyn Flower
Mother and Son – Nesreen Frost
Zoe Dances – Milton J. Bates
Swedish Rye – Christina Lovin
The Heart’s Dark Rooms – Brenda Yates
Waiting on My Daughter’s Night Class – Carol Barrett
Packing a Box to Send Home from My Daughter’s House in Portland – Shoshauna Shy
Playing in the Sprinkler – Patricia Wellingham-Jones
Brown Chair – Louis Hoffman
The Orphan – Juanita Ratner
Whiskers – Kimberly Weikert
Haiku for a Wanted Child – Christina Lovin
Arguing the Curriculum: Coleslaw – Carol Barrett
Daughter in Her Eighth Month – Felice Aull
My Father – Tom Greening
The Glass of Water – Jeff Santosuosso
At the Doorstep – John C. Mannone
Every Mother’s Son – Marcella Remund
Next Steps? – Rodger E. Broomé
Photograph – Maura Snell
My Father at Ninety-Two, Splitting the Days – Charlotte Mandel
Necessary Condolences – Ronnie Hess
By Love – Veronica Lac
Hydro Superintendent – Joanne Corey
The Emerald – Nathaniel Granger, Jr.
My Imperfect Perfect Son – Louis Hoffman
My Son the Artist – Michael Harty
Wrenhouse – W. F. Lantry
How it Feels – Alan King
That Time Comes – Patricia Wellingham-Jones
A Heart Attack – Michael Waterson
A Few Unheard Words – W. F. Lantry
St. Dominic – Marcella Remund
What Goes Around – Ellaraine Lockie
Faerie Panic – Daniel Ari
Four Months – Alan King
Risk – Maura Snell
The Art of War – Shahé Mankerian
Bird-Boy: Eve Remembering Abel – Charlotte Mandel
Insomnia Immediately Post-Partum – Marion Deutsche Cohen
Inside, Looking Out – Felice Aull
Counterpoint – Carol Barrett
Brushing My Mother’s Teeth – Christina Lovin
The Mother of the Bride Smiles – Phyllis Wax
Daddy–Daughter Dance – Lisa Xochitl Vallejos
The Night He Broke His Collarbone- Leah Browning
Binky Bond – Marilyn Zelke Windau
Light Rain – Annie Lighthart
Skating with Our Daughter on Veteran’s Day – Carol Barrett
Crossing from One Continent to the Next – Leah Browning
Fruit of Stories – Carol Dorf
The Child – Juanita Ratner
The Talk – Louis Hoffman
Walk – Marilyn Zelke Windau
The Message – Annie Lighthart
Morning, Third Sunday in June – Phyllis Wax
Photograph, 1975 – Christina Lovin
My Mother’s Power – Felice Aull
The Smell of Pine – John C. Mannone
Private Enterprise – Marion Deutsche Cohen
Sleeping Child – Charlotte Mandel
Watch – Maura Snell
Invocation – Marcella Remund
Mom Raps Me on the Knuckles – Lois Marie Harrod
Comforting Jack When He Wakes Coughing and Crying with a Cold – Charles Rossiter
Sea Creatures – Patricia Wellingham-Jones
After She Tells You – Maura Snell
The College of Mothers – Shoshauna Shy
The Interview – Michele Riedel
Father Hunger – Michael J. Gargano
Return – W. F. Lantry
Rehearsals – Brenda Yates
Impelled Toward Light – Carol Barrett
Winning Ways – Carl “Papa” Palmer
Night Fears – Louis Hoffman
Poetry Activities
About the Editors
Louis Hoffman, PhD, is a licensed psychologist practicing in Colorado Springs and offering TelePsychology (online therapy) in various states. He serves as the Executive Director of the Rocky Mountain Humansitic Counseling and Psychological Association (www.rmhcpa.org) and the Associate Director of the International Institute for Existential-Humanistic Psychology (www.iiehp.org). Dr. Hoffman has been recognized as a Fellow of the American Psychological Association and six of its divisions (1, 10, 32, 36, 48, & 52) for his contributions to professional psychology. An avid writer, Dr. Hoffman has edited/authored 18 books and over 100 journal articles and book chapters. His books include Our Last Walk: Using Poetry for Grieving and Remembering Our Pets; Stay Awhile: Poetic Narratives on Multiculturalism and Diversity; Humanistic Approaches to Multiculturalism and Diversity; and Existential Psychology East-West (Volumes 1 & 2). He serves on the editorial boards of the Journal of Humanistic Psychology (Senior International Editor), The Humanistic Psychologist, the Journal of Constructivist Psychology, and Janus Head. Although Dr. Hoffman left fulltime academia to pursue private practice and his passion for writing, he continues to teach at the University of Denver, the University of Colorado at Colorado Springs, and Saybrook University. Most importantly, Dr. Hoffman is a father, a husband, and a son who is blessed with a wonderful, loving family. He enjoys living the beautiful mountains of Colorado with his family and two dogs. For more information about Dr. Hoffman’s writing, visit his website at www.louis-hoffman.com.
Lisa Xochitl Vallejos, PhD, is a licensed professional counselor in Colorado. She is the current Board Chair of the Rocky Mountain Humanistic Counseling and Psychological Association as well as the President and co-founder of The Humanitarian Alliance. She serves on a number of boards and has been involved in many community task forces and initiatives. She currently teaches Anti-Racist, Anti-Oppression, and Social Justice trainings for mental health professionals. Dr. V is the author of Shattered: How Everything Came Together When it All Fell Apart and is an author or co-author on a number of articles and book chapters. Dr. V offers transpersonal perspectives to relationships, parenting, and life. She currently lives in Colorado with her two children and puppy, Goliath. For more information, please visit her website at www.lisavallejos.com
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